RELATIONSHIP: 13 Reasons Why Phone Calls Are More Important Texting For Your Love Life
"Can you read this text and tell me WTF it means?" a friend asks, handing me her phone. After scrolling through the conversation, I'll offer a few possible interpretations, along with the obligatory "but don't read into it too much!"
This scenario happens almost weekly, and as much as I'd much rather have face-to-face communication than a string of abbreviations and emoji with someone I'm dating, I've also been the one looking for translations of my text conversations.
But it's not just women or singles who deal with text message misinterpretations, confusion, stress, and assumptions, plenty of people in relationships get caught up in decoding text messages, or worse, engage in text fights. "This is one of the biggest relationship pitfalls that I hear about in my practice," Laura L. Ryan, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a Certified Imago Therapist in Austin, Texas tells Bustle.
"The way I explain it to couples is that most intimate to least intimate communication ranks like this: 1) Face-to-face conversation, 2) FaceTime, 3) Written letter, 4) Email, 5) Instant message or text."
But texting is just so convenient, right? "Unfortunately, text has become the primary form of communication in modern relationships because of the convenience and the ability to text while doing other things," says Ryan. So what's the best method of communication when you're not with someone in person?
It may feel old-school (but hey, aren't the '90s back anyway?), or terrifying (if you're not used to it), but your best bet for communicating effectively and building a connection with your crush or partner may be to just pick up the phone and call them. That's why Bustle is partnering with Blogologues' No Text Weekend, a challenge to not text from September 23-25. There will be event series featuring comedy, workshops, and classes all to help you connect better with others.
And it's not just about changing how you communicate with your significant other, the weekend encourages you to bring your voice back to conversations with your friends, family, and co-workers, too.
Interested in improving your conversations ASAP? I talked a bunch of dating and relationship experts about why talking on the phone versus texting can benefit your love life, whether you've been dating someone for three days or 300: