OPINION: The Ever-Stale Phrase; "Who Has Something Against This Marriage"
Weddings are special events for couples who are about to begin their marital journey. As an institution endorsed and blessed by the Almighty God, marriage comes with undefined glory, bliss, and integrity.
Although this love-filled adventure can be unsettling especially when one is unaware of what is ahead and where or how it will end, many who get the opportunity to embark on this journey are left mesmerized.
Couples spend time making their traditional marriages and weddings so special and memorable. Indeed, it is a memorable day!
We all at some point fantasized about our weddings whether grand or intimate. Having these thoughts in mind results in couples spending weeks, months, and in some cases years to plan their wedding devoid of unforeseen events that will mar the beauty of the occasion.
Yes, many people have been successful in achieving this quest, but a lot has also failed. Beloved, some fail because of inadequate preparation and other factors. Some also fail because they lack knowledge about the whole process and other cases due to someone's deliberate mess!
Have you witnessed a wedding ceremony where at a point, the officiating minister uttered the phrase "if anyone has any reason that prevents this couple from marrying, the person should come and say it"? Really?
Has it struck your mind that someone who has planned to 'spoil' the wedding can take advantage of the situation and cause a stir?
We live in a society where it is easy for someone to step on the toes of others. It is also true that we have people who do not forgive people who have offended them.
Don't you think when we give such unforgiving beings such an opportunity on a glorious and special day, depending on the nature of the offense, they can mess up the whole moment?
How will you feel if someone just stood up from his/her seat and confidently walked through the crowd to testify against you, explaining why your marriage should be canceled?
We have done this for a long, and it has caused havoc to many. I simply think we should cancel it. I agree that those who do that have genuine and justified reasons, but I am against it. I am not convinced about their reasons for putting up such an act. I simply can't comprehend because:
1. It is not biblical
2. It is not legal
3. It is culturally unaccepted and unreasonable.
4. It tends to taint the well-planned ceremony and brings about unnecessary tension. Our foes will always be unforeseen plans and undesiring schemes; they are just waiting for the opportunity to execute. As much as possible, we must prevent and deny them the golden opportunity to strike.
As the popular saying goes, marriage is a journey and not a destination therefore events leading to that leap must be void of sneaky activities and ill intentions of vile individuals.
In most churches, engagements and weddings are announced for about a month or more to create awareness. During these announcements, they can add that if someone has something against this marriage, they should see the leadership of the church or the family. If no one objects after one month, then there is no need to do that during the day of the wedding.
My humble opinion.
I dedicate this to my distinguished officiating ministers who officiate marriages, with much love.
Credit: Nana Owusu Nkrumah, Broadcast Journalist, Atinka Tv